Surrender to Your Natural State of Being instead of Setting Goals Based on Who You Think You Are

Written By Stefania Arzamendia

Hi friends,

I've made the workshop recording of “Surrender to Your Natural State of Being instead of Setting Goals Based on Who You Think You Are” available for those who couldn’t join us live or want to revisit the material.

You'll find:

  • Complete 60-minute workshop session

  • Guided exercises and practices

    * I didn’t include the Q&A as I want to respect the privacy of those who shared and asked questions regarding their personal experiences.

🎙️ ACCESS THE RECORDING HERE

Here are some some key insights and practical takeaways from our exploration:

The Old vs. New Paradigm of Goals

  • The old question "What do I want?" is limited because we make choices based on who we think we are

  • The new question becomes "What is life seeking to express through me?"

  • Most amazing things in life happen not through rigid planning, but through following our intuition and deeper sense


Understanding Our Natural State

  • Surrender isn't something foreign to learn - it's actually our natural state

  • What feels "normal" to us (our conditioning) is actually what's unnatural

  • What we think is "just who I am" is often just conditioning


The Journey of Surrender:

Surrender isn't about giving up – it's about moving through distinct phases that each serve our evolution:

  • Negotiation: Recognising how we bargain with our patterns

  • Acceptance: Embracing what is truly present

  • Grieving: Allowing ourselves to feel and release

  • Surrender: Opening to life's intelligence

  • Transformation: What emerges from surrender: unexpected possibilities appear


Practical Tools for Your Journey:

  1. Truth vs. Conditioning Check-in.

    Ask yourself daily:

  • Does this feel expansive or contractive?

  • Is this my truth or am I moving based on my conditioning?

  • When did I first learn this behaviour?


    2. The Surrender Practice

    When facing decisions or challenges:

  • What is life trying to express through me?

  • What would I do if I trusted life completely?

  • What am I holding onto that's ready to be released?


    3. Soul Setting vs. Goal Setting

    Before setting goals, pause to inquire:

  • Is this aligned with my deeper knowing?

  • Am I chasing this from fear or flowing from truth?

  • What would this look like if I released control of the 'how'?

Remember: All this work - the surrender, the grief, the letting go - it's all in service of recognising what we already are. Our natural state isn't something to achieve; it's what remains when we stop trying to be someone. 

If you'd like to continue this work, I'm here to support your journey. Please feel free to reach out with any insights or questions that come up.

With love and gratitude,

Stefi

Stefania Arzamendia